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Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Royal Subjects

Some parts of Esther's days are characterized by seizures and sleepiness.   Then there are the flows of giggles, smiles, "mama's" (she loves to say this during our gentle bath time routine) and bear hugs.  I had no preconceived ideas of a time table regarding attachment....but this girl was really ready for a Mom.  

And I learned she likes to be kissed on the nose, especially if it is preceded by lots of goofy kiss sounds first!

And I am bananas for my son in a banana leaf hat.  He has been incredible here, he is a toddler magnet, but Esther made it clear tonight that she really isn't keen on sharing him with others anymore.  This is HER brother thank you very much.  

This is how cute Brad and I looked the first time we went to court.  Today was the third time I went to court, but the judge didn't have there will be a fourth time on Friday.  So I am considering a cute matching pajama set to wear for this one, since a long wait and getting home close to bed time seems to be normative.  The birth certificate was temporarily lost today too, but King Jesus knew where it was at and it was found!

The youngest king in Africa came to visit the orphanage today.  He was 3 when he was crowned king.  He is 20 now and has lots of security around him.  I thought it was fitting that a King would come to visit my Queen Esther!  She knows she's a daughter of the King.  She can sing one song and someone translated it from Lugandan for me.  The lyrics are:  "JESUS IS HERE!  JESUS IS HERE!  MY JESUS IS HERE!"  The nannies say she even sings it in the night watch.  

When you know you are royalty you act differently than if you think you are an orphan.  

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in His holy dwelling.
Psalm 68:5

I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.
John 14:18

When you really know who and WHOSE you are, you can help others find their true identity in Christ as well.  You won't feel the need to point out orphan-leftover behaviors in others but can see past all that to the true child of the King within a person.  You can give the gentle reminder that, "Hey, that's not who you are!  THIS is who you were created to be."  And you will see no one after the flesh.  You can call forth the things that are not yet as though they were.  Sometimes it takes just a little faith to see the Royalty in the orphan, but it's in there.  We tend to all be radically insecure apart from Christ and we are commanded to live as much loved children, without shame and condemnation.  

The orphan spirit struggles to make eye-contact, even in the presence of one who is loving them.  A much loved child feels safe to gaze straight into the eyes of LOVE and beam back at the Beloved.  Intimacy doesn't feel like being exposed but like being really known and loved.  

How awesome is it that the One who knows us the best is the One who made us and likes us the most! He is the King and there are no orphans in His Kingdom!


"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

LOVE! I have often thought about the orphan spirit....because it lives in more than just 3rd world countries that lives in those around me. I don't think I saw it before, but having a child that struggles to connect, to trust. I see it more. As I look around I see just how much we all NEED JESUS!!!

Praise God for her connection to you already! HOW AMAZING!!! Praise God!!!!

Sarah said...

Amen! LOVE this post. My name (Sarah) means princess and our amazing God has spoken to me about being His princess many times. My favorite psalm is Psalm 72, because the King is soooo amazing.

It is such a beautiful privilege to impart this identity to others.

Unknown said...

Thank you for your encouraging, Jesus-exalting, convicting words. Just today I was struggling with frustration and impatience toward one of our adopted children. I needed this reminder - this check.
May I decrease as Jesus increases...
Lisa P.

Anonymous said...

So much truth here and such a good reminder.

Your writing is a gift. God bless you.

Anonymous said...

Hi Jenny, I stumbled across your blog from another blog ( and as I've been reading back through your older posts I've fallen in love with you & your family!! I've got an 8 yr old daughter with special needs and a rambunctious 6 yr old son. My husband and I have been blessed with 8 nieces and nephews who have been adopted (7 internationally & 1 domestically) and obviously our lives have been hugely impacted by adoption. I started an Etsy shop a while back and one of my prints was made for my sweet niece, Matea, who was brought home in 2008 from Ethiopia. I'd love to send you one of these prints ( if you want to email me your mailing information. God bless you and your husband - you're an amazing inspiration to all who hear your story!! You can email me your info at: Hope to hear from you!! I'll be praying for God's hand in your family - specifically in regards to Esther...she's simply beautiful!!
~ Aimee @ Red Letter Ink